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While going through some paperwork, I found an envelope my husband had hidden that contained nude photos of him and another woman from 30 years ago. Somehow, it's my fault and he won't apologize. Advice?

Dear Abby: I have been married for 52 years. While looking for a tax document, I found a manila envelope that had a note written on the outside. It said, “If something happens to me, please destroy this, because I don’t want to hurt anyone.” I opened the envelope and found nude pictures of my husband and another woman taken 30 years ago.